FAQs

Is this the right program for me?

Maybe. Maybe not. Let's have a quick, confidential chat and see where you are. Everyone involved with this community really believes "helping others heal is healing in itself'. This is not about the price tag. It's that we already survived the most extreme circumstances and trauma of our lives. We have empathy for what you are going through and want to help. And the more we help you, the more we heal ourselves. If I cannot personally help you, I would be honored to connect you to someone in this network who could help. Connections in healing, at least in this community, are free of charge. Wouldn't it be nice if the whole world operated that way?

Where should I start?

Start by reaching out! Whether you're just exploring options or ready to dive in, we're here to guide you. You can email us at nudge@thrivingadjacent.com or schedule a complimentary inquiry call. From there, we’ll walk you through everything—what to expect, how it works, and how to find the right group for your journey. Taking the first step is often the hardest, but we’re here to make it as smooth and supportive as possible.

Is the one-on-one coaching the same as support groups?

Not quite. Both are designed to support you, but they work a little differently. Support groups are small, private communities where you connect with others who are navigating similar experiences. It's a shared space to learn, grow, and lean on each other.

One-on-one coaching, on the other hand, is all about you. It’s personalized guidance focused on your unique challenges and goals. Whether you prefer the collective strength of a group or the focused attention of coaching, we’re here to help you choose what feels right for you. Or, you can always do both.

What is one-on-one coaching?

One-on-one coaching is your personalized support system for what you need right now. Wherever you are in the process, it’s a dedicated space where you can work directly with a coach to tackle your specific challenges, set goals, and create a plan that works for you. Whether you need help navigating the legal process, managing emotions, setting boundaries, or simply figuring out your next steps, coaching gives you the focused guidance and too ls to move forward with confidence. It’s all about you—your journey, your growth, your goals.

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  • human connection and empathy: most often, this is where we start. You just experienced something hard. Its a lot to process. You may have a lot of questions. We have been there. Lets us help you get through to the next day with a little less on your plate to worry about.

  • basic survival needs: you might need help organizing your house or your files; or maybe you need us to meal prep and cook for the week so you are set up to survive and with one less thing to worry about. If you just need a nap, we can help you find childcare or babysit for you ourselves.

  • in-person support: can include all the things above like cooking and organizing. But if you feel having someone attend a meeting with you would be helpful, we’re there too. We just need the info. We can take notes and help you process when we debrief afterwards. The whole point is you don’t have to do it alone and we can lighten that weight on your shoulders.

  • grief support: it could be walking you through the stages of grief, helping you with arrangements or just making sure you are eating. We will meet you where you are and proceed on your terms.

  • divorce support: this is a broad topic but we can conver everything from finding the right attorney to reviewing documents and working on co-parenting plans. All the above applies as life continues on while you are navigating such an emotionally draining process.

What should I expect from the support groups?

Our support groups are safe, private spaces where you can connect with others who truly understand what you're going through. Each group is small and carefully matched to ensure everyone feels supported and heard.

You’ll meet once a week to share experiences, discuss practical topics like parenting plans or managing stress, and gain insights from both the group and your facilitator. It’s a mix of guidance, encouragement, and real talk—always judgment-free and focused on helping you navigate this chapter of your life with strength and support.

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Topics may include but are not limited to:

For Divorce Support

  • breakdown of the different types of divorce available in California

  • understanding the Marin court system and the players

  • recommendations for attorneys and other professionals based on personal experience from the group and mediator

  • coaching on how to deal with difficult personalities from blatant immaturity to narcissism and sociopathic tendancies

  • teaching you to understand things like gas lighting and stonewalling; and how to proceed from there

  • support when it comes to abuse, coping strategies, what you need to know for court, how to protect yourself emotionally and how to find additional help

For Greif Support…

What is Coaching vs Support vs Body Doubling?

These are all different terms for more or less the same things: ways to help.

  • Coaching is helping you through the process and building your strength. It might be sharing what to expect when going through the Marin Court system. Maybe it's training you on to interact with a narcissist that you still have to co-parent with.

  • Body Doubling is helping you as if we were you. If you have to meet with your attorney and you are not sure you will retain all the information and be able to advocate for yourself, a body double can go with you, hear it and help you digest it all afterwards. Or maybe it's doing your laundry or organizing your pantry or meal prep. It's being the you that you cannot be right now because let's face it, this is an overwhelming process. But at least there is a solution. You dont have to struggle on your own any more.

  • Support is a combo and just a simpler way to describe what I needed. Because it was everything. I needed someone to hear me, to see how frail I'd become, to make me eat, to offer to play with my kids so I could take a nap. I needed to organize my closest, my finances. I needed someone to review my parenting plan that my STBX edited and put back all the things he'd removed. I counted on my attorney to help and she did not...it got left out and I didnt know until it was too late...because my brain was in a fog and I couldn't manage it all. I needed someone to help me with that and I had no one. I would have paid anything at that time to just have someone come and help me. So this is my gift to my past self. Someone is here and available to help.

What is Bravery Buddies?

"Helping others heal is healing in itself"

We've all been where you are. And it was horrible. And we decided to make ourselves available to help the next person through the hell we just survived. Everyone here pays it forward and volunteers to help at least one person get through a trauma similar to their own. Some of us had to deal with restraining orders , others with social services; some of us were traumatized by infedelity and others are survivors of the unimaginable. As alone as you feel, there is likely someone in this network who has gone through what you are experiencing right now. And that is where the mentor steps in. They can understand your pain and if nothing else, will help hold you together and remind you that to date, you have 100% accuracy of surviving the worst day of your life. And you are going to do it again tomorrow. And eventually, you will be on the other side helping someone else survive the day.

Overwhelmed to the point of being frozen?

When I was in the "thick of it", I was so desperate for help. Anything. At the peak of my devastation, when my whole world had shattered and I was operating on 4 hours of sleep a night, I was suddenly navigating legal meetings, court systems, understanding all my finances while also running a household, managing two kids and trying to hold it all together. My house was a disaster. My computer was old and glitchy and just attempting to log into the banks had me in tears. I just needed help. In any department. And I had to do it alone (it was also the beginning of covid and the whole world was falling apart). It was fucking hard. But I learned a lot. Thriving Adjacent is everything I so desperately wished I could have had back then. Its a gift to my previous self...who I forgive for all the things she did not know back then.